How the Wheel Turns, Putting Student Loans Into Perspective & Another Reason Not to Anger a Natural Redhead

There's some BIG news on the horizon for me. Started last week after my husband had gone out of town. For one thing, did some networking (as I'm apt to do). I also had a guy try picking me up on the subway (marking the second time this has directly happened).

This happened after leaving a party where this guy in a grad program for Math saved my evening after this bitchy woman who had no clue who the fuck she was talking to dared to make little gestures at me and be a bitch about people sitting in her precious little VIP booth (simple polite words would have been fine; making little scurrying gestures is another story). I did make sure to loudly say it's not a good idea to piss off an attorney after getting up but not sure if anyone heard or not.

Before that, I'd sat down and some guy asks me "Who are you?" Not "Hello," or "How are you?" Taken aback, I was about to say "An entertainment attorney you shouldn't mess with," when the aforementioned bitch walked up. Funny that I also saw 2 people I knew at this event, one of whom has landed himself on my future victims list & may very well have landed a spot on my shit list. We'll see how he conducts himself in a face to face setting with me to assess that one. He also wins the Captain Obvious Award for deeming me "weird." It's what "No, duh! What planet do YOU live on?" I had to ask him what his first clue was after that e-mail considering when he met me in person, it was fucking obvious I'm not some conventional or ordinary person.

Life lesson: don't piss off an entertainment attorney, especially if you work in the entertainment business. We can & WILL fuck you up. That's a promise & we won't even bother violating legal ethics rules to do it.

Back to this little subway pick-up scene: I'm listening to music & riding the subway to my transfer point. The guy sitting next to me asks what time it is. I tell him & then he asks "Are you single?" I said I was happily married. To his credit, he didn't say anything further or, to quote Positive K's song I Got a Man, say "What's your man got to do with me?" That will get you smacked in real life.

That is the proper way to handle a failed pick-up. Civilized people do this instead of harassing the woman, creeping her out or otherwise pestering her. Let's face it, I'm one of the last women anyone ought to be hitting on considering I've got options if I wanted to use them.

That statement is probably only going to be more true in the near future considering I got a great opportunity to do something lots of women would like to do (some might even kill to do it) but probably couldn't. Not disclosing much here but let's just say that after feeling that I get harassed so darn much by guys I ought to be getting paid based on my looks, that feeling will most likely become reality in the short term future. High school me would have loved it & did get an offer once but couldn't take it b/c of that whole being in school during the day thing.

I also learned something interesting on Monday at my City Bar Entertainment committee meeting. Rumor has it that the current City Bar President may have the same gripe I've had for years about the entertainment being offered at NYC Bar. You can imagine the response of the majority of the committee; massive conniption fits all around. Somebody else may want modernism as well. Now, who would YOU say is the biggest modernism proponent in these bar associations? If my name doesn't come up, someone hasn't been around lately. I think you'd be hard pressed to find a more anti-lawyer than me, especially considering my entertainment work & my actually knowing good writing, living the life I've lived (my diverse & unusual experiences) and my general creative personality. Maybe sticking around will pay off again.

As an artist, I've felt stifled except for exactly one time in the year where I can present MY creative voice and do what I want to do. If I didn't have that one event, I would be gone. I spoke up about my recent forum that's become the talk of NYCLA and led to people coming out of the woodwork to thank me for doing it, ask me for mentorship, connect with me on social media, etc. I'm hoping I got some people the average events wouldn't muster a second glance from.

For me, good entertainment is art. Art is not politically correct! It makes you think, provokes something in you, even if it's just making you laugh or feeling empathy for someone or a group. For me the two go hand in hand.

Censorship bothers me on a very deep level & while I was asked to be part of the delegation to meet with this President to see if the rumor is true, I did mention I'm a button pusher and I think any objection City Bar has to something could be solved with a simple disclaimer saying what we do is NOT to be taken as a representation of City Bar's views. Commentaries to movies and TV shows have this. This blog even has a disclaimer lest anyone thinks my personal views are = to those of any company I own or work with.

I'm not the type of person who has patience or tolerance to cater to the most offended people in the room. I say if you're that offended, you should stay home & stick to programs YOU select for yourself. If you're making some big complaint about my art in that context, I'll have to assume you're trying to shut down television shows and so forth because you refuse to parent or get off your large butt/grab the remote & change the channel/turn off the TV set or radio like every other human being on this planet. Nobody's putting a gun to your head & making you watch or listen to anything. Plenty of reality TV shows offend ME but you don't see me trying to shut down Snooki & JWow, The Real Housewives of Wherever, or anything else that offends me. You don't see me picketing TV networks or advertisers over it. I just don't watch them. End of story.

Last I checked, we were also adults here. Why should we be doing acts catering to 5 year olds? I haven't even seen little kids at the shows I've been to unless they were related to the person being honored at the 12th Night show.

There's also question of if City Bar wants to act like the Hayes office or network censors when it comes to our entertainment. I think I'd have to point out the hypocrisy if it rears it's ugly head. Lawyers are supposed to be PROTECTING the Constitution and the 1st Amendment freedom of speech is a basic right everyone is familiar with in there. A bar association, run by attorneys, censoring other attorneys is a major problem for me as an artist, film exec and entertainment attorney. That's a good way to get all of them to flee in droves & you bet I'd tell everyone I knew in entertainment if that happened and how hypocritical it would be for a particular attorney in the field to stick around. I'd have to also share with my creatives so they knew who to avoid for legal services; clearly endorsing the censorship of someone else's art means that lawyer isn't going to protect any other creative like (s)he should.

I'm also wondering if modernism is an issue, will the old guard take new writers and ideas seriously? Will they give people room? I feel like maybe I could get room since I don't think you have to pee on history or tradition to accomplish that goal & I've built some goodwill (in singing & acting at least so I think I can push writing, considering I've been published) but who knows about anyone else.

I know if I didn't get room, I would react very strongly. I even shared this issue with the old City Bar President & he pretty much told me "it's very competitive" and left it at that. I would welcome not having that committee feel like a high school or college drama club where the same people do the same things year after year, nonstop & no one ever will get a chance to do anything until the current people die (which is worse than waiting on the seniors to graduate). I'd feel the same if people I brought in didn't get room since that's the same as being nasty to me.

I've also been looking at more publicity for myself & had to jump on board for something else I'm not going into detail on. However, it was the reason I had to claim this blog officially.

These days, I don't spend much of my time reading the so-called "law school is a scam" blogs but I did see an entry on this story that made me want to rant.

This happened in the US, where having student loan debt means you are an indentured slave.

So, hotshots who claim we need no student loan debt reform, tell me how you like the idea of this guy doing what he did? What about him committing suicide over these student loans?

Personally, I'd have taken some different people with me. For instance, some paid off government officials or high ranking employees of these student loan companies that flagrantly violate debt collection laws. I have no beef with my law school administrators like the scam blog writers do. Perhaps settling personal scores before you go or having sex right before you kill yourself.

Then again, if you had sex first you might be so happy afterwards you talk yourself out of suicide unless you were severely, chronically depressed & wouldn't be able to have sex with that person again for some reason. Granted, it would also be bad to be the man or woman who had sex with that person & now had to worry about continuing to put out and delivering whatever game they delivered in the first place so the suicidal person doesn't kill himself/herself (unless that person was a total monster or knew they had nothing to do with the choices of the suicidal person; hopefully they have some measure of care toward the suicidal person).

Still, I wouldn't want to go without having good sex first. That includes the presence of consent.

Nonetheless I know the people railing against reform would whine & cry about how that's terrible and "suicide's not the answer." They'd be joining in the whole community mourning and all that outpouring of grief. I don't think they'd have the balls to go against that view.

Well, what IS the answer bitch (or bastard)? Your own religion would punish you for speaking ill of the dead or saying they will burn in Hell like you're a judge announcing a verdict. If you're not religious, you're still asking for karma to bite you in the ass.

Get a job? Have you opened your eyes to today's economic reality where college kids are forced to work in retail & fast food making minimum wage or far less than $10 an hour? See that recent article about the McDonalds that required a college degree to be a cashier there? Entry level in the legal field is non-existent. Nor is the state bar obligated to get jobs for new attorneys or law schools obligated to get jobs for new graduates. It's sink or swim, fuckers!

Payment plans? Do you know how private loans operate? Do you know that most law graduates have a good chunk of debt in private loans, meaning the government's got squat to do with them & the providers are, for whatever reason (probably lobbyist money), a legalized Mafia organization whose motto is "Fuck you, pay me!"

Networking? That's a limited solution, not a one size fits all concept. Some people are shitty individuals & no one likes them. Not everyone has the charisma or charm for it, especially many attorneys. You also have to be able to find the right people to network with & if you're not in those circles, you aren't in.

Join the bar associations? Doesn't really work if the bar association doesn't have a committee in your field of interest. It also doesn't work if you aren't willing to jump into a conversation of 4-5 people who already know each other & don't know who the fuck YOU are (assuming you aren't a gorgeous creature busting up a group of people of your preferred gender to sleep with) or get approached by people (that also increases if you're a gorgeous creature). One of my big gripes with bar associations is that new people who aren't social butterflies have no way to effectively meet and integrate with attorneys there. If a sorority did that in recruitment, the school or Nationals would attack them in about 2 seconds.

Let's also not ignore the obvious fact that many attorneys are assholes & I definitely encountered plenty when I was a law student/new attorney regardless of my unusual career path.

Finally, if you aren't some BigLaw worshiper with a T1 school on your name you are considered fucked by many circles of the legal field (circles I don't deem worthy of my time or attention). I personally don't think innovation or subbing those assholes ought to mean people commit suicide over unconscionable & disgusting student loan contracts and repayment terms.

I find most of the anti-reform crowd are either old farts who went to law school before 2000 (and the later exemption of student loan debt from bankruptcy, including private student loans, in 2005) or people with no graduate school degree or training to their name who haven't the faintest clue how going to law school works. These people need to shut the fuck up & propose useful, relevant and practical solutions instead of rattling off the same old tripe a hundred times. We're sick of "when I was YOUR age, I walked 15 miles in the snow to school" logic. Boo hoo! Look how sympathetic I am to you sitting in your little mansion & eating at the most expensive restaurants in the world.

Repetition doesn't make your argument magically more sound. It just makes you look more stupid, clueless, out of touch & at worse, a heartless piece of shit who should just go work for one of these loan companies and have blood sacrifices for them. You love them so damn much, why aren't you sacrificing animals to them? You're already figuratively sacrificing humans to them. Why not make it literal?

Read this article from Secret Agent Man on Backstage & apparently this is another reason not to piss off redheads. Seems our presence at a casino table means good luck.

Now if I ever go to Vegas and guys ask me to blow on their dice before they throw them, I'll know why they're asking. That could also explain anyone following me in the pursuit of high payouts. Hopefully, that knowledge will keep my husband from killing folks.

Do you think a redhead you have pissed off is going to bother helping you in that respect? I don't know if this applies to natural redheads exclusively but I'd say this is more reason not to piss off natural redheads. We could fuck up your ability to win in casinos by alerting the Fates & thereby making sure you lose. I would do that. So would any of my naturally red haired family members. We've got tempers, you know.

Posting a Pic Publicly ISN'T an Open Invitation to "Holla" at Me, Asshole!

So, I'm involved in a social networking/review site where you have to post your real pic publicly to be involved in a special status there. I won't tell you the name of it for the sake of my own privacy but it's a special status that earns a bit of bragging rights in some circles.

Normally, I'm not harassed by people on the site though some apparently have met romantic prospects there. Before today, I'd never personally been harassed for that & certainly never at any in-person event as part of this special status.

That changed when this asshole whose user name was his telephone number decides to go comment on my picture then send me a message not based in proper grammar & in all caps. It wasn't something explicit like "I want to fuck you" but I was nonetheless offended.

What's wrong with this, you may ask?

A) I'm happily married & in NO WAY AT ALL fishing for men. I even have a back-up guy, for God's sake. If there's anyone who does not need a man propositioning her, it's me. For those women who might think this opens the door for them to proposition me, I'll wonder if my husband put you up to it since my straightness is pretty obvious.

B) My husband's not exactly kind towards men making compliments to me. He doesn't even like guys to check me out in public. He'd likely kill you or make you wish you were dead. If you managed to win? Then, we get to C.

C) I'LL fucking murder you if you even think of harming my spouse. You'll really find me sexy when I've cut off a testicle or your dick, won't you?

D) Generally speaking, I don't do orders from others & remember that saying about redheads being crazy & having tempers? There's some truth to it. I'm the type who'd poison you, murder you in your sleep & generally make your life Hell if you mess with me. Am I slightly sociopathic? Perhaps. I don't know. I do care more about animals than most people.

To sum up: it's in your best interest not to end up on the wrong side of a natural redhead. Bad things will happen & you will regret it.

You can pay a sincere compliment in the air of niceness & not trying to get in our private parts. We women like that sort of thing.

What we don't like is sloppily composed messages by men who have social media profiles that announce "I'm a horndog. Fuck me, baby!" If you're not a legit user someplace & your user name is your telephone number, you've given me that message.

The grammar thing is also a pet peeve of mine. Illiteracy isn't going to impress a lawyer, thanks.

To me, it's the same as getting whistled at or catcalled in real life. You're the type of guy I want to see get a horrific STD that will make his dick fall off or end up with some creepy chick who gives him what he deserves, which would be some permanent alterations.

This isn't even the first time I've gotten harassed because of my picture being available publicly. I once had a user on the online site where I met my husband proposition me. This guy was old enough to be my father & an attorney in Massachusetts. I pointed out that A) I was not available & said so in my profile, B) he was old enough to be my father, C) my father would kill him & D) I wasn't going to sleep with someone to get a career since I can get one on my own.

Yeah, you're not going to do anything different or interesting in approaching me in such a fashion since I've seen it before. All you will succeed at is pissing me off & making yourself a target for wrath. Do you really want to do that to yourself? I don't take kindly to it as a "joke" either; you'd certainly better not have entertainment aspirations if you do it.

Classy women aren't impressed with catcalls or the online equivalent. Save that for hookers & women with low self-esteem! Hookers are only in it for the money & women with low self-esteem will be more interested than those of us who are still getting competing offers even when we don't want them.

This should be yet another illustration of why I don't post my pics publicly when I can avoid it. I'm sure if I did it on LinkedIn I'd STILL have some cretin bothering me or telling me he masturbated to my pic or something.

General Musings Part 27

So, now I've got more stories to do mini-rants on. Here goes:

Tell me, why doesn't this shock me at all? And why do idiots continue to encourage women who are unprepared, irresponsible & in no way fit to be parents to continue to pop out babies? Why are legislators in places like Kansas and other states where they're trying to outlaw abortion not publicly castigated in their own home states & areas for being utter & total morons? If I were one of the psychologists who did this study, I would want to smack some sense into these people. Granted, I'm always wanting to smack sense into people though.

For instance, people who believe in "the rules" of relationships. Seems this recent study blows some of your theories out of the water. I'm not so sure we could say it's due to modern times or if it's just that the things they debunk just weren't good ideas to start with. I'll go with #2 myself. On the subject, I recently decided on my first vlog topic. Look for it in the coming week or so; I'm determined to get the damn smartphones ordered before Wednesday. We're at "enough is enough" with those.

Now, this bitch apparently apologizes for her harsh remarks. I call her a bitch for a couple reasons:

1. I saw a few episodes of her show Confessions of a Matchmaker (I believe that's what it was called. It was set at her agency in Buffalo, NY) & that's how she came off.

2. She claimed redheads were second class citizens & ugly compared to blonds & brunettes. A colleague of mine at the scam TV network told me about this & said she thought it was a load of crap since my hair's pretty + it violated her experiences. I should mention my colleague is a model.

Where's your apology to natural redheads, you bitch?!?!? I'm still waiting! I think she's jealous of redheads since one must have caught the eye of her man or caused some kind of horrid experience that she's not recovered from. Don't blame genetic reality because you can't measure up or aren't in a class by yourself; try improving YOURSELF. Funny but I'm pretty sure I could find millionaires who'd threaten to kill me if I dyed my hair & who'd probably tell me the same things most other people do about my looks. I'm sure some of them would also want a word with the guys I went to school with who declared me ugly & ran like Hell from me.

The biggest reason for my venom here? I could swear she had reddish hair when I saw her on that earlier show. Don't blame us because you couldn't hack it in our world.

Now, as for reasons to be glad you aren't famous, I beg to differ on some of these:

1. Some celebs do whatever the hell they want & could care less about the press. Some, in fact, make it their mission to fuck with the paparazzi. Personally, I'd do that if I ended up famous. The people close to me would know what was up so it would be an ongoing inside joke among my inner circle & me.

I'd love messing with people like TMZ or tabloids. They're vultures, as we've seen a billion times.

I also respect celebs who give the metaphoric middle finger to the press & the public on matters such as this. I ended up having to do that when I was getting tormented by gossips who were as vicious & pervasive as tabloid reporters. I felt like a mini-celebrity & that was enough; the experience is probably why I'm highly protective of friends who work with celebrities or celebrities who are my friends.

2. Some celebs don't have to diet. Heather Locklear was known for not having to do that. I certainly don't diet now & finding clothes to fit me is a challenge. If I DID diet? I'd have to buy from the children's section or would end up being taken to some eating disorder clinic since people would think I was starving myself.

So yes, some people can eat junk food & that includes (gasp) chocolate cake! Heck, I probably should eat chocolate cake so I don't get thinner.

3. Pimples are nothing. They have make-up for those. If they can cover tattoos on set, pimples are no problem. Heck, Katy Perry & other famous people have been making $ from doing Proactiv commercials. Admitting to having skin blemishes (even presumably) certainly isn't harming them.

Being fat? Yeah, that's an issue but you do have $ for trainers & plastic surgery. The average person doesn't.

So as for reasons to be glad you aren't famous? I can come up with better:

1. You get to have a private life.

2. You aren't always getting photographed, especially if you don't want to be "on" that day.

3. You don't walk in with heavy baggage known by everyone. At least if you're the average person, you may be prejudged but you can go to another city or another profession & not get that. If you're famous, you don't get that luxury.

4. People don't want to date you or reject you b/c of your career. Thank God I'm married & don't have to worry about dating while working in this field. That would make life truly suck for me. It's hard to find someone who's devoted to YOU & not your star power or your industry reputation + its perks. Just like #3, it's harder when everyone knows all about it vs. only one segment of the population (one town, industry, whatever).

5. You can give people the benefit of the doubt. Even working in the business & not actually being the star out front, you still have to wonder what one's angle is. It's why I've said my friends will probably end up being just rich people or industry peers. There's less on the line if you're not famous; famous people can't just go somewhere else & start over like the average person can. With the Internet, it's even harder for them to hide their past though some average people may have the same problems.

Speaking of celebrities, my elitism may be showing here shortly. Apparently, Penn Badgley who is on Gossip Girl (remember I don't watch the show despite doing that extra gig there) decided to join the Occupy Wall St. protest.

Okay Penn, you've pissed me off by calling these protests "cheesy." First off, do you think the 1st Amendment is "cheesy?" Do you even know what the 1st Amendment is all about?

You most likely wouldn't have a job if we didn't have a 1st Amendment because your show wouldn't be on the air. How much controversy has been reported on Gossip Girl over the years? I may not watch it but I do remember the stories & do recall the parental outcry over some of your story lines (like the threesome episode).

Second, do you think the occupation of attorney is "cheesy?" Because the basic fundamentals of being an attorney to start with is ensuring that everyone has EQUAL access in society. That includes civil rights. I'm sure you like having an entertainment lawyer, do you not (this presumes you have one since clearly you don't have respect for my profession if you're making such remarks about peaceful protests)? At the very least, I'm sure you like that they exist in the industry to protect you & other actors from breaches of contract or abusive set conditions while you're working. If you don't, you go right ahead & see how you're treated when there are no attorneys in the picture & contracts are only enforceable by the party with the most money. You can have millions but if the opposing party has billions, you're just like the 99% dealing with the 1%.

For the record, if you hire me for entertainment services & then make a public statement like this, I won't be your attorney anymore + will share these insights with you.

Third, do you think standing up to the NYPD is "cheesy?" What are your thoughts on these blatant intimidation tactics (which is what they are, pure & simple)?

Free tip to you & others making more $ than sense in public: when these protests start getting violent (and with the NYPD white shirts keeping this shit up combined with the lack of immediate access to the guilty parties, they certainly will), you will be on the list of targets for rage & harm. Flaunting your wealth & "I'm better than you" status by calling the protests "cheesy" (nobody twisted your arm to join in, Penn or you should have stood up to it), blaming Obama for them or making fashion critiques/bemoaning lack of leadership & other nonsense taking away from the issue is likely to get you injured in some way. I foresaw this type of uprising for years & years (and you can read back in this blog if you doubt this). Ignoring & belitting this type of force will lead to violence.

See, if these corporate types had been smart, they'd have made damn sure to leave people enough money to live meaningful lives & consume so they'd not have idle time to express outrage & protest against them. Since they were too stupid to do that, they're just going to have to face the consequences. You shut down people's voice & they'll be violent just because they feel they won't be heard in any other way.

Okay, enough with that tirade. On to more articles.

This was interesting to me since it was concerning teen suicide due to homophobia. I'm also reminded of a PSA I saw on Cartoon Network on bullying where they told kids to get an adult involved & if the adult did nothing, to keep going to them or find someone who would do something.

So what do you do if it's involving homophobia & the school is in the middle of Bigotville, USA? I feel as an adult it's my duty to call someone a spineless piece of garbage if they are allowing bullying to happen toward anyone. Considering I lived it (bullying not accusations of being gay though apparently people tried starting that rumor), I do have a bit of insight on it. It seems like in those situations, you do need the power of litigation to compel action.

Now, for more schoolroom idiocy. Who else finds this whole argument asinine? Let's discourage common courtesy a little more, eh? Maybe this teacher should ride the NYC subway for inspiration on other instances of common courtesy he should discourage in class. Next thing you know, these kids won't tell anyone when a classmate drops some money since that would mean talking in public. If this teacher dropped a $50 bill in class & no one said anything when someone else took it, it would sure teach him a lesson, huh? I certainly wouldn't tell him.

Finally, I'm happy to see this & annoyed that the federal government has the gall to try to challenge it.

If someone goes to the Supreme Court, I'd love someone to ask "What good is federal law on the subject when the federal legislators have been bought by corporate America & refuse to enforce the laws? What good does it do when they're too busy trying to kiss ass in Latin America instead of protesting the CITIZENS of THIS country? For that matter, what good does it do when they're kissing the asses of foreign leaders instead of protecting permanent residents & others who aren't going to be welcomed back to their countries of origin as full citizens?" I say until these countries give Americans the same rights as foreigners get in this country, they have no cause to say a word when the US bothers to enforce its immigration laws. They should also make up their minds: either you want to leave the borders open to illegal terrorists coming in & have no real hassle for citizenship or you want to enforce the damn laws & not give amnesty to criminals who broke the law + whose free pass will discourage those who actually bothered to take the steps to become LEGAL citizens.

See how big the whole Occupy movement is? Yes, you're a fascist & a pig if you oppose peaceful protests in America, the land of the free! I don't give a damn if you agree or disagree with one's views (though if you disagree & aren't in the 1%, I'll hope social Darwinism takes you out).

What Did Blonds Ever Do To Us???

I'm about to tell you about a phenomenon that you're fully familiar with if you're a natural redhead: the dislike of blonds. For those who aren't natural redheads, let me give you some perspective.

1. When you're growing up as a natural redhead, you get a legion of people who put you down for it. I remember getting downright tormented by male classmates. I also heard from a guy once "I'd think you were pretty if you were a blonde."

I thought I'd been the only one until I read a story in Seventeen magazine as a teenager where the story author was a natural redhead talking about her experience growing up as a redhead. She had a guy tell her the VERY same thing.

So blonde, in a redhead's mind, is = to "society's ideal that I'm not." Hearing it enough really makes you chafe against it. Even some little girls will try to push blonde hair color onto redheads or make you feel like less of a person because you're a redhead.

2. Segments of society insult redheads. Consider the saying "Blonds have more fun." Who came up with that? Or "redheaded stepchild?" It wasn't a redhead, that's for sure. If you'd hung around me in college (oh, hell if you hung around me now), you'd know that was total bullshit. The blonds I knew had to actually put in effort to get guys to talk to them. They had to flirt. I never did. To my knowledge, I'm the only one with that power & I'm sure some people who've seen it would tell you that it's because I'm a redhead. Presumably, redheads have magic guy catching powers.

There are also men who hate redheads & claim we're ugly. One of these men was none other than Psycho Boy, if you can believe it. He said he hated redheads before meeting me. Had no sexual interest in them but when it was me, he was practically a damn stalker!

Is it any wonder I preferred dark haired guys? I'd have been all set if I'd gone to school with Italian guys but sadly, there were none in NC when I lived there. Blond haired guys also never talked to me & typically never viewed me as a romantic prospect.

And is it any wonder I had a lot of friends who weren't white when I was growing up? See, if you're a redhead you're the target of insult. I always spoke to whoever was nice to me & I figure the people who were my friends were dealing with similar garbage from the white kids so we had some common ground + common enemies. This is why if there were a natural redhead takeover, racial minorities would be fine.

Plus, they never looked at me like I was some alien from outer space. You feel like people think that about you, especially if you're around other redheads. Going out with my own family has garnered those looks. I'm more aware of being the only redhead than of being the only white person in a room.

3. Mainstream entertainment puts redheads down on a regular basis. How many natural redheads have actually become famous? Now, how many blonds and brunettes? Who's seen as the "industry type?" Certainly not redheads & I definitely don't think some blond is better looking than me, thank you very much. If anything, that blonde would more likely compliment my hair. I also think redheads are far more special & noticeable.

By the way, I define a natural redhead as someone who's never been any color but red. A real redhead would be murdered for changing her hair color. I've certainly been threatened with it & I get compliments on my hair nearly every time I walk into a hair salon. No decent beautician would ever dye it for me since they'd view it as a crime against nature.

Now I know finding natural redheads is next to impossible. Yes, I know it's only natural for 1% of the world's population. I don't envy anyone having to find a stand in for me if I had a role requiring that. But if you know redheaded actors & you're taking fake ones for parts, it does piss me off. It's the same feeling that I'm sure black people, Asian people, Hispanic people & others had when Hollywood was having white people pretend to be them instead of looking for actors who fit those characteristics.

The Millionaire Matchmaker apparently even had the gall to insult redheads, implying we were inferior and second class. Ha! The bitch hosting that one should see me out someplace, where I totally don't act like someone trying to find a guy & have guys approach me whether I like it or not.

Plus, the experience of being a natural redhead is very different from dyeing your hair the color later in life. You aren't coming into it with the baggage and the hassle a natural redhead had to go through. You're making a choice vs. having it inflicted upon you. You didn't have your mother tell you you couldn't dye your hair until you were 18. Nor did you have to go through life feeling like you had a proverbial spotlight fixed on you at all times.

It's no coincidence or shocker that natural redheads don't wish red hair on their kids, especially if that kid's going to be a boy. Red-haired guys have it even worse. At least women can get jobs as models or be viewed as "exotic."

Not to mention Manswers proclaims red-haired women are the best in bed, more sexually adventurous and get laid more often (vs. both blondes & brunettes). There are also fewer prudes in our ranks. This is WOMEN, though. Not sure whether this is true about men since such stories only go to women.

So, tell me again that blondes have more fun. Sounds like the men who hate redheads need to start listening to Manswers. I'm not going to confirm or deny the truth of those statements but let's just say that stereotypes about anything exist because some people do live up to them. Otherwise, they wouldn't exist.

Hopefully after reading this, you non-redheads out there will show some respect to the natural redheads you know. I find it funny Chelsea Handler says the same thing about red-haired guys that I've been saying for years. Only difference is no one would think she was committing incest if she dated one.